Key Lessons from Being a Clinician

May 27th 2025

This a different piece today. I always wanted to write what I see and feel at work. So this is one of those. 

Below are eight lessons worth sharing about work place experiences.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

 Many people say they want a certain kind of partner—responsible, respectful, kind—but their actions don’t always match their words. Real-life behavior often tells a very different story. People like to have little talks around these things. Not me.

"Work Spouse" Dynamics Are Real

 Relationships at work can blur boundaries. Some coworkers form close bonds that go beyond professional limits. It's not uncommon to see flirtation or emotional intimacy in the workplace that could affect real relationships outside of work. No wonder most nurses and other clinicians tends to have bad relationships. Emotional bonding is so real. 

The Workplace Can Feel Like High School or secondary all over again

 In some environments, the workplace mirrors high school — with cliques, gossip, competition, and romantic drama. Hierarchies and popularity dynamics often play out, especially in high-stress fields like healthcare. People hardly grow above these bonds. 

Women Can Be Just as Sexual as Men

Contrary to stereotypes, many women express interest in physical attraction and talk openly about it. Looks and confidence matter to them just as much as they do to men. I tend to stay away from these temptations. Some people loves these dynamics. Choose what works for you. 

Cheating Is Easier When You're Surrounded by Temptation

 With long shifts and close contact in healthcare settings, opportunities for emotional and physical connections arise so easily — especially when people work together constantly and form strong bonds. Imagine being away at work for 12 to 14 hours a day multiplied by 3 to 4 days a week. The only people you see around you during some of your challenging times are your colleagues. 

Masculine Energy Is Often More Attractive

 Confidence, assertiveness, and presence can be very appealing. Women are often drawn to those who exhibit strong leadership or command attention — like doctors, firefighters, or people who carry themselves with purpose.

Perception of Nurses in Relationships

 There's a stereotype that nurses and other clinicians may be more prone to drama or infidelity due to the intense, emotionally charged environments they work in. While it’s not fair to generalize, it's fair to suggests being cautious and aware.

Reality vs. Idealism in Dating

 The idea that women are always looking for the "nice guy" doesn’t always align with reality. Many are drawn to excitement, status, and charisma — even if it contradicts what they claim they want.

Emotional Bonding Through Shared Experience

 Spending long shifts with the same people, especially in stressful environments, naturally builds emotional connections — sometimes even more intense than those formed outside of work. This is worth repeating. 

Keep your eyes wide open at work and stay out of temptations. 

Yours Pal,

Ronnie